Unfinished Goodbyes

Worksheets · Worksheet 3

Both Thoughts at Once

With an unclear loss, two opposite thoughts are often true at the same time. Holding both, instead of forcing yourself to choose one, makes life easier to live.

About 10 minutes · Goes with Guide 2: Making Sense When There Are No Answers

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1Practise “and”

Write two thoughts that both feel true. The first two lines have examples; write over them.

and

and

and

2My mixed feelings

Mixed feelings are normal. Writing them side by side helps you see that neither one cancels the other.

I feel and I also feel .

I feel and I also feel .

I feel and I also feel .

3What I would tell a friend

Imagine a close friend told you about these mixed feelings. What kind words would you say to them? Now read those words as if they were written to you.

Two things can be true at once. You do not have to choose.

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