Unfinished Goodbyes

Worksheets · Worksheet 5

What I Can and Cannot Change

Unclear losses cannot be fixed, however hard you try. This sheet helps you sort out where your effort can make a difference, and where it cannot.

About 10 minutes · Goes with Guide 3: When You Cannot Fix It

Nothing you write leaves this device. Unless you tick the box above, your answers disappear when you close the page.

1Add the things on your mind

Add each worry or task. Then sort it below.

2Sort them

Tap an item to move it to the next column.

Cannot change

This is outside my control

Can change

I can act on this

How I respond

My attitude, my words, my rest

3Hard times I have already survived

Remembering what you have already lived through reminds you that you can manage uncertainty.

4One small thing this week

Choose something from the “Can change” column that you are sure you can do.

You are doing a good job in a situation that nobody could fix.

Inat Therapy · Anahita Tanwar, Clinical Psychologist · online sessions across India

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