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Worksheets · Worksheet 8

Helping People Help Me

People who love you often want to help and do not know how. Grief leaves you little energy to explain. This sheet does the explaining for you.

About 15 minutes · Goes with Guide 5: When Other People Make It Harder

Nothing you write leaves this device. Unless you tick the box above, your answers disappear when you close the page.

1Everything I could use help with

Be as practical, or as wild, as you like. Nothing is too small or too much to write here.

2A note to hand out

Fill in the left side and the card fills itself. Print it, or take a photo and send it.

A note for the people who love me

What helps me: ______

What does not help: ______

Things you could do:

  • ______
  • ______
  • ______

If you are not sure what to do: ______

Thank you for staying.

3Our secret code

Agree on these with one or two close people. Then you can answer “How are you?” in one tap.

☀I am okay right now
☕Be with me, no need to talk
☁Today is hard, please check on me
🔔I need help now

Asking for help is allowed. The people who love you are waiting to be asked.

Inat Therapy · Anahita Tanwar, Clinical Psychologist · online sessions across India

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