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Every couple keeps a quiet ranking: who is the sensible one, who is the difficult one, who looks down and who looks up. Can two people be close when one of them is standing above the other?
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Can You Love Someone You Look Down On?
Contempt does not need a raised voice. Sometimes it is only a look, and it costs the one who gives it.
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How Do You Say the Hard Thing?
Four sentences for raising what hurts without starting a war, and what to do when you are on the receiving end.
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Whose Marriage Are You Living In?
A daughter flinches, and a father recognises the flinch. How a childhood gets into a marriage, and how it stops.
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