About Me
Hello, I'm Anahita Tanwar
RCI Licensed Clinical Psychologist
How I came to this work
My father's job moved us often: five cities and eight schools. When you are the new girl that many times, friendship stops being something that just happens to you. I had to work out what it took, and it was never the same twice. Some people let me in on the first day. Some took months. Who I was in each school depended a lot on who was sitting next to me.
So I paid attention. I learnt what a real apology sounds like, and how different it is from “sorry, okay?” I learnt to tell when someone was angry even while they were saying “I'm fine.” More importantly, pushing never brought anyone's walls down. Being safe did, slowly.
I didn't know it then, but I was already studying people. That curiosity took me to psychology, and to my research on intimate bonds and why rejection hurts some of us so much more than others. I still listen the same way: to what a person says, and to what they mean. I am now training further in couples therapy. This is the work I want to spend my life understanding more deeply.
Qualifications
- ✓ B.Sc. Psychology
- ✓ M.Sc. Clinical Psychology
- ✓ M.Phil. Clinical Psychology
- ✓ Fellowship in Indian Couples Therapy (ongoing)
Registrations
- ✓ CRR No. A119539
- ✓ Registered with the Rehabilitation Council of India (RCI)
We were hurt in relationships, and that is where we heal too.
— Anahita TanwarTherapy Approaches
- ✓ Psychodynamic Therapy
- ✓ Mentalization-based Therapy
- ✓ Schema Therapy
- ✓ Emotion Focused Therapy
- ✓ Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT)
- ✓ Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
- ✓ Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- ✓ Interpersonal Therapy (IPT)
Which relationship brought you here?
With yourself
The inner critic. Feelings that arrive too fast and take up too much space. The worry that won't switch off. The heaviness that won't lift.
With a partner
The same argument on repeat. The distance. Betrayal. An ending you can't make sense of. The fear of starting again.
With family
Parents, siblings, in-laws. The role you were given at home and are still playing.
With your past
Things that happened long ago, but still shape how you react, what you expect, and what you fear today.
With the wider world
Bosses and authority. Belonging. Faith. The pressure to be someone. And the question of what it is all for.
Ways to work with me
Relationship therapy for one
When the other person isn't in the room. We work on the relationship from your side of it.
Learn more →Couple therapy
For two people who want to understand and change what keeps happening between them.
Learn more →Discernment counselling
For couples unsure whether to stay or leave. A short process to decide what happens next, with clearer eyes.
Learn more →De-addiction therapy
When alcohol, tobacco or other substances have started to cost you something. Plain, without judgement.
Learn more →Also available: psychological assessments.